19 years old is far too young to be thinking about marriage! Come on, I was barely a Sophomore in college struggling to maintain a B in English Literature, needing only to shave once a week. I made $7.15 per hour! Occasionally, I stayed up all night playing video games! I was a just a kid. Nonetheless, love is not a practical emotion. Neither is … Continue reading How Strong Marriages Emphasis Unity Over Individuality
Traditional ideas of morality are quickly dismissed as antiquated and quaint in our uber-progressive and highly-evolved culture. We understand that, as a society, we have matured beyond such closedminded theories on right and wrong. Monogamy is on the way out, and good riddance! Continue reading Monogamy – Who Needs It?
I have 3 little ones who are no longer little. This morning my son walked into school as a freshman in High School. My little princess is now in middle school. And my baby is in 3RD GRADE! What is happening? I glance up at the calendar on the wall and marvel how quickly the pages seem to turn. October already? Wasn’t it Easter just … Continue reading The Gospel According to the Little Mermaid
We’ve been married now for 16 years, but it almost never happened. It was only months before our wedding when Heather came extremely close to canceling the venue, rescinding the invitations, and breaking my heart. It was the night she found out I was an idiot. I didn’t try to “hide” my idiocy during our two-year courtship, per se. I simply learned to conceal it … Continue reading Help! My Wife is Falling Apart
“There are 5 main arenas of conflict found in most marriages: sex, children, in-laws, finances, and communication. Which of these 5 do you see as your primary source of conflict?” I’ve asked this question hundreds of times to both men and women in pastoral marriage counseling. Can you guess what 95% of women say is the biggest problem in their relationship? Nope, not sex. That … Continue reading Help! My Husband Won’t Talk to Me (7 Simple Steps)
There is nothing more beautiful than watching a relationship sprout, blossom, and bloom. One of my favorite things about being a pastor is watching love grow in our congregation. It’s so much fun to look out into my flock and see a man who previously came alone sitting (very closely) to a woman who previously sat alone. LOVE! Then they ask to speak with me. … Continue reading 3 Signs your Marriage is in Trouble
Heather and I love talking about marriage, speaking at marriage retreats, and sitting with married couples in order to discuss marriage. Marriage counseling has become a passion of ours, as we have now been privileged to sit with hundreds of couples and help them navigate the joys and dangers of relationships. In the last 12 years I’ve noticed a common denominator in each of our … Continue reading The One Thing I Tell Every Couple
Traditionally in our culture we have seen the area of housework firmly in the category of wifely duties. In fact, some have taken this cultural practice and attempted to spiritualize it by tacking on a Bible verse or two. Yet for every verse that teaches a wife is take care of the home (Titus 2:5) there is another verse that teaches a husband is to … Continue reading Five ways a husband can help his wife at home
